So, this should be one of the happiest episodes I've ever recorded because there's a few different things that are going on right now. We crossed 100,000 followers on Instagram. This is episode 100 of the Dad Nation podcast, which statistically speaking, only 2 to 3% of podcasts ever make it past 100 episodes, which is incredible. You know, my business had the biggest month ever, and I recruited an entire sales team. I mean, we've been scaling and it's incredible. And yet, just a few days ago, I had one of the worst arguments I've ever had with my wife. I lost emotional control and I had to face a painful question. How can everything in my life look so successful while the things that matter most quietly are suffering? So today, instead of celebrating episode 100 by talking about my biggest wins, I'm going to celebrate it by being the most honest I've ever been. So I'm going to tell you exactly what happened. I'm going to tell you what it exposed in me. And I'm also going to share five questions that I think every husband, father, and leader should be asking himself before success quietly costs him, his marriage, his family, and ultimately himself. Because if this experience has taught me anything, it's this. No man is beyond drift. All right, let's get into it.
Welcome to the Dad Nation podcast. The place where high-erforming men are empowered to reclaim their home, their health, and their happiness while enhancing their career success. You see, in a world full of noise, burnout, and mediocrity, we believe what's missing is courageous and compassionate leadership in the home. Because when the dad gets better, the whole family wins. You see, this isn't just a podcast. It's a movement for men who refuse to settle for less in their families, in their focus, and their future. We are curse breakers and we are legacy makers. I am your host, Mitchell Osman, and I'm honored that you've chosen to invest your most valuable asset, which is your time, with me today. Now, let's get into it. All right, welcome to the Dad Nation podcast. It's episode 100, baby. Here we go. Breaking statistics, shattering statistics. 100 episode doesn't sound like much, but let me tell you, the hours, the hours, the blood, sweat, and tears I put into every framework, every recording session, every editing, every hour I put into editing these podcasts, it is unbelievable. So, while 100 doesn't sound like a lot, for me, it is an a huge accomplishment. So, now, thank you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for being here. And and I and I hope and I pray like every single week that what I'm delivering to you is valuable that it's actionable information that you can take and you can implement and that you can you can take action on, right? It can change your life. So before we jump into sharing what happened with me, I want to just thank you. If you were not listening, this wouldn't exist. So from the bottom of my heart, I appreciate you and I hope you're here when we celebrate episode 1000. is coming up. All right, just 900 more to go. This is going to be great. So, thank you. Now, let's get into it. Here's a question I want you to consider. How does a man become more successful professionally while simultaneously becoming less healthy personally? How does a husband who genuinely loves his wife end up giving everyone else his best while giving his family what's left, the leftovers? And perhaps the biggest question is this. How does the coach end up becoming the student again? Well, it happens when a man has no systems to protect himself from himself. And this past month, I was that man. And here's the irony, okay? This wasn't happening during the hardest season of my business. It was happening during the best. The business had never grown faster. My influence had never been greater. People were congratulating me. The numbers looked incredible, but internally I've never felt more stretched. And one of the biggest lies high performers believe is this. If things are going well, I must be doing well. These are not the same thing. And here's the thing about success. Success does not reveal your priorities. It amplifies them. Let me say that one again. success re does not reveal your priorities, it amplifies them. So when life speeds up, whatever systems you've built become even more important because success magnifies both your strengths and your blind spots. And that is exactly what happened to me. Not because I love my business more than my family, but because I had nothing left to give when I got home. I didn't have a system in place to protect me from myself because high per you're going to hear me say this a lot high performers career driven man we don't got a problem with ambition about working hard right about drive about motivation our problem is we don't have a system to stop us from overdoing it you see because looking back I don't think that I was choosing my business over my family here's what I was doing I think I was tolerating a pace that made the outcome become inevitable. You see, there's a difference and that difference matters because what was I doing? I was telling myself, I'm doing this for my family. I'm scaling this business to give myself more income, more freedom, more time. I'm doing it for my wife. I'm doing it for my boys. Have you ever caught yourself saying that? And that's true and that's a great thing. But here's what else was happening. Every extra hour made sense to me. every late night, every early morning, every sacrifice workout, every skip recovery day, every I'll rest after this launch, every it's just one more season. It all sounded noble because I believed I was doing it for them. And ironically, the people that I was working hardest for became the people that were paying the greatest price. You see, the business got the buffet and my family got the leftovers. And that is one of the hardest sentences I've ever had to say out loud. Why? Because my wife said that to me like eight years ago in my turning point. She said, "I feel like you go to work and everyone gets the Mitch Buffet and you come home and I get the scraps." And lo and behold, we come 360 and here we are again. And that's hard. I mean, it's hard to admit, but that's kind of where I where I landed, you know, for a little bit. And I want you to remember this, okay? Because so many men are afraid of failure. So many men work so hard because they don't want to be perceived as a failure. But perhaps the greatest threat to your family isn't always your failure. Sometimes it's your unchecked ambition. Sometimes that's the greatest threat to your family. That is my greatest threat to my family. Not ambition itself. Ambition is great. unchecked ambition because ambition without boundaries eventually asks your family to pay a price they never agreed to. So as all this kind of began to unfold and we worked through it, I began to reflect back on what exactly happened. And the problem wasn't that I stopped loving my wife. The problem wasn't that I stopped loving my boys. The problem was I was given my best energy, my best creativity, my best emotional capacity to everyone except the people I love the most. And here's what's dangerous. No one notices this overnight. This is what we call the drift. It's slow. It's subtle. It's almost invisible until one day you realize you've become emotionally unavailable in the very home you're trying so hard to provide for. Now, before I go any further, I want to make something crystal clear with you. Nothing I'm about to tell you is an excuse. I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm not trying to justify what happened. I'm just trying to understand what led to it. Because if we don't understand how drift happens, we're doomed to repeat it. You see, context doesn't remove responsibility, but it does reveal warning signs. And leaders who ignore warning signs will do so at their own peril. So what was happening for me? Well, everything was happening. Everything was happening all at once. A ton of pain, physical pain, emotional pain, a lot of different things. Here were some things that were happening simultaneously. And if you've been listening to the podcast for any amount of time, you would have heard back a few episodes ago when I was talking about how I had the surgery and my wife was pregnant and we were going into this big season and I had strategies set up which worked for a while until I overrode them. Okay, this is true vulnerability here. I was recovering from a bicep surgery. I had torn my bicep on April 1st. Happy April Fool's Day. My wife was recovering from a a C-section. My son was in the in the NICU for almost two weeks. We had this newborn baby at home. We had a toddler. Now we're potty training my toddler. We were sleepd deprived and I only got use of one arm. She can't lift anything, right? Cuz she's recovering. I'm scaling the business. I'm hiring and I'm on boarding an entire sales team. I'm coaching clients. I'm pushing the podcast forward. It is just heavy and a lot, right? And any one of my friends would say this about me and it's probably something that I wore as a badge of honor, but I'm I'm resilient. It's one of the things that I love the most about my life and what I've been able to do and press through. But unfortunately, I think many men make this mistake. They don't ask themselves this question. At what point does resilience quietly become recklessness? I I I think that not a lot of high performers know where that line is. And I know I didn't. And so that's what happened to me. My resilience, my my desire, my ambition, my drive to push through became reckless because I think another thing that a lot of ambitious men believe, another a lie they believe is if I can carry it, I should. But capacity and wisdom are not the same thing. Just because you can carry more doesn't mean you should. I know somebody needs to hear that today. I needed to hear it. I mean, I was exhausted. I was exhausted physically. My body was in recovery. I wasn't exercising. I wasn't sleeping. We had a newborn. We got a toddler. All these different things. No, that's not an excuse. But these were warning signs that my body was screaming for rest. But my encouragement to you today, brother, is this. Don't wait till everything is screaming to get your attention. Don't wait till the the the amber lights are flashing and you're going into a full full-on meltdown. All right? Create systems, which we're going to get into, right? I'm going to give you questions to ask yourself. I'm going to help you create systems to protect yourself from yourself. And if you're an ambitious guy, if you're a hardworking guy, if you're a hard charger like me, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And you know, as the more as the more I look back and I reflected on what was going on, my body was telling me what was going on way before my wife did. I wasn't sleeping. I wasn't recovering. I wasn't training. I wasn't taking care of myself. And I was becoming increasingly impatient, increasingly reactive, increasingly emotionally unavailable. And the signs were everywhere. But I just kept convincing myself it's only for a season. It's just a season. I can do anything for a season. This season will end. Now looking back, those five words are dangerous. Those five words are dangerous for me because just one more season has a way of becoming 6 months and then it's a year and before you know it, it's your lifestyle. And all of this led me, all of this reflection led me to my biggest realization of this entire experience. Is this all this wasn't actually about burnout. It was about leadership. Because the higher I climbed, the more isolated I had quietly become. Hey brother, let me ask you something. And I want you to really think about this. Are you winning at work but quietly kind of losing ground at home? Maybe you're the guy people rely on. You stay calm in meetings. You carry that pressure all day and you kind of wear that like a badge of honor. But maybe when you walk through the front door at home, your wife feels distant. Conversations feel shorter. And instead of being excited to come home, maybe work feels easier. Nothing is broken, but something is slowly drifting. And if you're telling yourself right now, I'm going to fix this when things slow down, or I'm going to fix this when things get easier. If you're honest with yourself, you already know they won't slow down. They won't get easier. with a high performance husband is for men who were done coasting. It's for men who want to win at home like they win at work. You see, this isn't therapy. It's not about fixing your wife. It's not for men who want quick hacks. It's for men who want to be calm under pressure, strong in their body, clear in their thinking, and to become the man that your wife and kids look up to with pride. So, if you're listening to this and you know that what got you here won't get you where you want to go, I want you to go to dadnationco.com/acelerator or click the link in the show notes below and then you can apply to join this accelerator and join myself and many other like-minded men who are leveling up in their home, in their health, and their happiness. They're winning all year long. It's a 12-month mentorship. It's going to change your life. All right, now let's jump back into the episode. I was not leading myself well. I was not leading my family well. I was not doing the very things that I coach so many men to do. Which brought me to this leadership paradox, which is probably one of the biggest lessons I've had to relearn over the years. And honestly, it's one that this time I didn't see coming. You see, I believe that the men who lead others may actually be the men most at risk. Not because they're weak, but because they're trusted. Why? As you think about it, right? If you're the CEO, everyone comes to you. If you're the pastor, everyone comes to you. If you're the coach, everyone comes to you. If you're the business owner, everyone comes to you. If you're the father, everyone comes to you. You're the one giving advice. You're the one carrying vision. You're the one asking hard questions. You're the one holding everyone else accountable. But eventually, you have to ask yourself, who's doing that for me? Who's leading the leader? Who's coaching the coach? Who's pastoring the pastor? Because that's the question I failed to ask. And here's the thing, anyone in leadership will understand this. And if you're listening to this and you were in a position of leadership, you know this on a visceral level, but leadership naturally creates isolation. I believe this is one of leadership's biggest hidden dangers that nobody talks about. Listen, followers consume, employees respect, clients admire, social media applauds, people celebrate your wins, but very few people have the permission to challenge you, to confront you, to lovingly tell you you're drifting, man. And that's a dangerous place to be in because here's the thing. If you are their leader, even if you ask them, they're not going to feel comfortable telling you. And that's simply because of the position, the the relationship, the nature of the relationship. It is what it is. Now, leadership experts often describe this as the loneliness of leadership or what we would call executive isolation, which really means the higher someone rises in responsibility, the fewer people are willing to give them honest feedback. So without intentionally building accountability, leaders can slowly lose perspective. It's amazing. And listen, I don't think this just applies to CEOs. In fact, I know it doesn't apply to just CEOs or entrepreneurs or whoever in in corporate positions of leadership or in work or in business. This applies to husbands. It applies to fathers. It applies to pastors, coaches, entrepreneurs, anyone carrying responsibility. You see, my big realization was that for years I've been asking other men the hard questions. I've been asking everyone else the hard questions. Questions that changed their marriage, that changed their health, that changed their fatherhood, that changed their leadership. But somewhere along the way, I stopped making sure someone was asking those same questions to me. And that's the irony. The coach needed coaching. The leader needed leading. The accountability partner needed accountability. And here's the thing about people in this situation and people in positions of leadership. Leadership does not eliminate your need for accountability. It multiplies it. Let me say that one again. Leadership does not eliminate your need for accountability. It multiplies it. I want you to wrap your head around that for a moment. If you are in a position of leadership, you need accountability more than anyone else. But statistically speaking, you will probably not have much of it in your life. All right, so this is where I was at. This is what's going on. There was another big realization that I had. I was believing one lie when all this happened and I lost my mind and I overreacted and my me and my wife had this huge fight after we had that big blow up. I was filled with shame. I felt like a hypocrite. I felt like you talk about the imposttor syndrome, that was me. Okay. How dare you coach men? How dare you tell men how to have better marriages and how to have better control over their emotions? Look what you just did. So, in that moment of shame and feeling like a hypocrite, I started to believe this one singular lie. And it was this. I'm becoming the man I warn everyone else not to become. I'm becoming the man that I coach every man not to be. But here's the thing. I don't believe that. That's true anymore. Because the men who truly become that man, they don't stop. They don't reflect. They don't repent. They don't ask for forgiveness. They don't invite accountability. They simply keep drifting. And that's what my brother Angelo, one of my closest friends, he helped me realize after we had a great conversation about this. Now, I'm going to come back to that because as I'm working through this and I'm reflecting and I'm trying to work my way out of this and I'm trying to decide what even got me here in the first place, it forced me to confront one uncomfortable truth. I thought my problem was working too hard. And even up until this point, you you're probably thinking that that was my problem, too. That wasn't my problem. My problem was having no system that prevented me from working too hard. I was the problem, not the work. And that's a completely different problem. Right? James Clear, you know, one of my favorite authors. He wrote a book called Atomic Habits, which is one of my favorite books. And if you've listened to this, if you've been listening to this show for any amount of time, you've heard me quote this one many times. He says, "You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems." And for years I thought that that really applied to fitness, to business, to habits, productivity. But this week, I realize this applies to marriage. It applies to fatherhood. It applies to emotional health. Because if your system allows you to continually sacrifice the things that matter the most, eventually that's exactly what you'll do. You'll sacrifice it all. Because you know what my system looked like? And it wasn't always like this. I mean, I'm just talking about the last couple months here. It all happened very, very quickly. And this is part of why I was so taken back. My system looked like this. Staying up late, working when everyone else went to bed. Waking up, working before everyone else got up. Working every spare minute I had. Convincing myself that this is temporary. Ignoring all the warning signs, not taking care of my health, and repeating it day after day after day. You see, that was not discipline. That was unsustainable. I didn't need more discipline. I needed guard rails. You see, because as I said in the beginning of the episode, high performers rarely need more motivation. We're overflowing with motivation. We're overflowing with ambition. We're overflowing with drive. All right? If you know me at all, you know I have no issue with any of those things. And so many of the men that I coach have no issue with those things. What we really need is protection from ourselves. What we really need is systems that stop us before burnout does. Because eventually your body will enforce boundaries if you refuse to. I want you to remember this. Discipline builds success. Boundaries protect it. Discipline builds success, but boundaries protect it. Which brings me to something that I've started doing this week. And honestly, I think every husband and father and leader should do this. And I call it the drift audit. Okay? It's very, very simple. Now, why am I giving this to you? Because I don't want this episode to simply inspire you. I want this episode to protect you from yourself from getting to the place where I just came from. Maybe you're there right now and you're not sure how to get out. So, if that's you, or if you could see that being you, or if this has been you, I've created five questions that I'm committing to asking myself every week. Not once a year, not when life falls apart, every week. Because drift is so much easier to correct when it's small. I love this quote from John Dwey. He says, "We do not learn from experience. We learn from reflecting on experience." That is huge. That is huge. If you don't reflect on the experience, you do not learn. Okay? Most ambitious men never stop long enough to reflect. We just keep moving on to the next task, onto the next strategy, on to the next proposal, onto the next client. We keep moving. This audit will force you to stop. So, you track your numbers in business, your revenue, your performance, KPIs, and you know exactly where you stand. But let me ask you this. Do you know the score in your marriage? Or are you just hoping it's fine? Because you know what? Most men have no idea. They don't check until something breaks, until the distance is obvious, until the tension turns into silence, until the word separation enters the conversation. And by then, they're playing catch-up. And that's exactly why I built the high-performance husband audit. It's a free twominute diagnostic designed specifically for driven men like you to give you a clear, honest read on where your marriage actually stands. No fluff, no therapy talk, just 10 strategic multiple choice questions, a clear category, and a proven system to help you fix what's off before it becomes something bigger. Because if you're disciplined enough to track your business, you should be disciplined enough to lead your home. So go to the link in the show notes and take the high performance husband audit today. Get your score, get your plan, and start leading where it matters most. All right, let's get back to the episode. So the first question is this. Did my family receive the best version of me this week or did I give them the leftovers again? Did my family receive the best version of me this week or did I give them the leftovers? Question number two. If my wife described how she experienced me this week, what words would she honestly use? Present, patient, calm, available. Or would she say things like, "He was distracted. He was pressed. He was emotionally unavailable, short-tempered. His body was here, but his mind wasn't." And so let's move on to question number three. I love this question. Where is my body trying to get my attention? Be honest with yourself. Where is my body trying to get my attention? In my sleep, stress, my anxiety, my anger, am I constant tension? Am I poor health? Because your body often notices burnout far before your mind does. It will respond physically. What's it telling you? Question number four. Who challenged me this week? Who challenged me this week? Not who encouraged me, not who complimented me. Who challenged me? Who has the permission to call me out and to call me up? And if your answer is no one, brother, you are more vulnerable than you realize. And this question is exactly why I called my friend Angelo. It's because I realized I had very few people who would be completely honest with me. And I knew he would. So, Angela, if you listen to this, shout out to you, brother. We had a little uh like daddy son, daddy daughter date. We took our strollers to the mall. We got cake pops for our kids, coffees. It was great. Brother called me out. It was very, very helpful. He challenged me. And since then, I've invited other men into my life to challenge me and will continue to do so. Last question for you. Number five. If this week became, I love this one. If this week became my lifestyle, who would I become? If this week, what happened in this week, the way I lived this week, my rhythms this week became my entire lifestyle, who would I become? What would my marriage become? What would my children remember about me? Would I be proud of that man? And if not, I want you to change something this week. Not next month, tomorrow. Not change everything. Change one thing. Because that's the thing here. This is my challenge to you. Awareness without action changes absolutely nothing. But like I said, don't go ahead and try and change everything at once. Change one thing. Set one boundary. Say one apology. Have one conversation. Make one adjustment to your calendar. Delegate one responsibility. Have one accountability call. You see, because small corrections in the short term prevent massive consequences in the long term. So for me, real quick, I did a couple things, right? I drew a line in the sand and I spent some time. For me, you know, you all know I'm a I'm a person of faith. I spent some time in prayer and I sought the Lord. I believe God speaks to us as his children. And I believe he spoke to me that morning. It was very, very real, very, very honest. And I wrote a letter to myself, calling myself up to become the man I know I needed to be. Then I wrote a letter to my wife to repent. When I say repent, this is not just an apology. It a repent is is a commitment to change your ways. Okay? There's a reconciliation. So a repentance and reconciliation. A repentance is yes, I'm I'm sorry, but it's a commitment to turn from your ways to do something else. Reconciliation is how can I make this right between us, right? Repentance, reconciliation. I called my brother Angelo. We went out, we chatted. It was great. I made an appointment to meet with another mentor of mine and was like, "Hey, man. Can we get serious about this? You've been very successful. You've lived a great life. Can I be real with you? Can you be real with me?" And being completely honest, I chose vulnerability over hiding. I chose humility over pride. I chose taking ownership over making excuses. Do you think that most people would record an episode and tell thousands of people about their mistakes? Make no mistake, brother. This is part of that process. This what I'm doing right now is part of me. Hey, would you hold me accountable? This is vulnerability. This is humility. This is taking ownership and I'm telling the world about it because it's very important that you understand that I'm serious about this. And it's very important that you understand that no man is beyond drift. That if you're hearing this and you're a leader, you're no different than anyone else. You're no different than me. But it's also very important for you to understand that this is very normal and this is very healthy. Is very a big part of leadership. Which brings me to my next point. For about 24 hours, I kept repeating the same sentence over again. I'm becoming the man I tell my clients not to become. And I said that when I hung out with my friend Angelo. And then he actually he left a voice memo after we were hanging out and he encouraged me. He says something I'll never forget. In the midst of me believing that and saying that to him, he said, "Listen, the man you're afraid of becoming does not stop and fight like this. That guy, he doesn't do what you're doing. You're not that man. You're not becoming that man. You're very different." This completely changed my perspective because he's right. The men who truly drift, like I said earlier, they don't stop. They don't self-reflect. They don't repent. They don't seek accountability. They don't ask for forgiveness. They don't invite truth into their lives. They just keep drifting. So, the fact that I felt conviction, the fact that I wrote these letters, the fact that I apologized, and the fact that I reached out, the fact that I asked another man to speak truth into my life isn't evidence that I'm becoming that man. It's evidence that I'm becoming the opposite. And that's a huge difference. Now, brother, hear me say that. I'm not saying all this stuff to pat myself on the back and say, you know, look at me. Look at what I did. Look at how vulnerable I am. Whatever. No, I'm not saying that. I'm saying that to reveal what's been going on inside me to help normalize it for you. Because this podcast is designed for careerdriven men who want to win at home like they do at work for the high performer. And this is very, very common. And the most the most impacting thing you can do is to normalize it for other men so they can understand that they are not alone in it. That's why I'm doing this. Does that make sense? So, hear my heart in it because I'm hoping that out of the thousands of people that are going to listen to this episode, I'm hoping that someone needed to hear this today. I'm hoping that wherever you are, whether you're driving to work, whether you're driving to the gym, maybe you're doing some laundry at home, whatever you're doing, I hope you needed to hear this today because maybe you've convinced yourself, "This is just who I am. This is who I am now." No. Hear me say this, brother. Your current season is not your identity. Your current struggle is not your destiny. Your worst week does not define the rest of your life. One bad moment does not determine the kind of man that you are becoming. Hear me. Hear me say that very clearly. One bad moment does not determine the kind of man you're becoming. Your direction does. Your direction does. Because if you're willing to own it, if you're willing to apologize, if you're willing to repent, if you're willing to ask for help, if you're willing to change, you're already walking in the right direction. So, what does this mean for me? Well, there's some new commitments. From this day forward, my priorities are very, very simple. My relationship with God, my relationship with my wife and my boys. Everything else exists to serve those priorities. It's very simple. Everything else exists to serve those priorities. not compete with them. Here are some other things that I'm committed to doing. Building better systems, protecting my margin, delegating sooner, recovering intentionally, asking for help earlier, and not glorifying just one more season, not wearing burnout like a badge of honor because I don't need to become somebody else. I simply need to become more faithful to the man God has called me to be and to the man, the husband that my wife needs me to be and be faithful to the father that my boys need me to be. Those are my commitments. Now, let me ask you, what are yours? Because if this experience has taught me anything, it's this. No man is above drift. Not husbands, not fathers, not CEOs, not pastors, not entrepreneurs, not coaches, not me. In fact, the higher you climb, the greater your need for accountability becomes because like I said earlier, leadership does not eliminate your need for community, for accountability. It multiplies it. And you see, that's the lesson that I almost had to learn the hard way. I didn't need another podcast. I didn't need another leadership book. I didn't need another strategy. I needed accountability. You see, because in my years of leading men and discipling people and mentoring people and coaching people, I've come to realize that there are three keys to transformation in any given area of your life. I need you to listen in. Dial in with me for a moment. Okay? Lock in. There are three areas. The three keys that lead to transformation in any given area of your life. My clients here all hear me say this all the time. It's information. It's implementation and accountability. Okay. Tragically, most men stop at step one. They stop at information. They just say, "I need more. I need another podcast. I need another book. I need another thing. I want to take time and think about it. I need to learn more information." It's that's just the first step. I was actually on a call with a NASCAR crew chief. Interesting career, right? And we were talking about this and I explained this concept to him the other day and I was explaining like information is the tools, right? And and implementation is how you use the tools. Accountability is the follow-up to make sure you use them correctly. So in his context, I was saying information is like a torque wrench, right, for a car. Now, if you don't know how to use tools and I just hand you a torque wrench, well, you don't have no idea what to do with it. But the key is the second piece is the implementation. Well, now I'm going to show you how this how to torque the tires, how to torque the wheels. The third piece is accountability. This is where I'm going to follow up and say, "Did you torque the wheels on that car before it went 200 m an hour?" Here's the thing. The right tool can prevent an accident at 200 mph or it can cause one if it's not used correctly. Here's another piece about information. We all have access to AI, right? We've got access to all the information in the world. So listen, if information alone were enough, we'd all be walking around with six-packs and happy marriages and billionaires. If information were alone were enough, every guy who ever read a book on marriage would turn it all around. Every person who watched a YouTube video on wealth would become a millionaire. We all know that ain't happening. Everyone who downloaded a free fitness plan would become shredded and lean. Even this podcast, this is another tool. This is more information. Now, while that's great, and I think this podcast is great, I try to make it great. The bigger question is what are you doing with it? How are you implementing this information? How are you implementing what you're learning? And who and more importantly, who's holding you accountable to make sure you're doing that? Who's in your corner that loves you enough to be honest with you? I say this all the time. I tell men what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. It's a very important distinction. So, a lot of times us as men, the reason why we get to where we're at is because we've surrounded ourselves with people who only tell us what we want to hear. And in fact, as a coach, it's my duty and my responsibility to tell you what you need to hear. It's my responsibility to be completely honest with you. And if I weren't honest with you and I weren't telling what you needed to hear, that would make me a terrible coach. And so I refuse to do that. I will pursue honesty and cander at all times. Right? This is so key. Information, implementation, accountability. Now, let's take this back to my situation because here's the craziest part. I knew this all along. I teach this framework that I just talked to you about, but yet I still wasn't tapping into the other two pieces, the most critical ones, implementation and accountability. You see, I needed someone who loved me enough to tell me the truth. Sidebar, that wasn't my wife. She's going to be a terrible accountability partner. Also, please don't make your wife your accountability partner. She's not designed to carry that weight. She should not be. That is not good for the the dynamics of your relationship. If she is one, please relieve her of that and find another guy in your corner that can speak truth into your life. I needed someone to tell me the truth. I needed someone to remind me who I really was when I couldn't see it in myself. Because this is the thing, brother, you can't see the full picture because you're stuck in the frame, the frame of your life. You can't see what's going on. And there is a reason for that. It's called the Solomon's paradox. I've talked about this on previous episodes. If you don't know what it is, Google it. It's amazing. But it's the reason why you can't you just can't coach yourself. You can't hold yourself accountable. You got to have people in your life, right? This and this coming full circle. This this meta moment, if you will. This is the core reason why all of this exists. This is why this episode exists. This is why the p the Dad Nation podcast exists. This is why this entire movement of of of men exists. This is why I've dedicated my life to coaching men. It's for this one reason. To give men information, to teach them how to implement it, to hold them accountable, to transform their lives so that they become the men, husbands, and fathers their family so desperately needs. And like I said in the beginning of every single podcast episode, this is not just about these men. This is about the wives and the children and the generations to come. We will see a ripple effect in multiple generations because your children will grow up to become more powerful children. They will be loved. They will be encouraged. They will be confident because of the work that you've done. And they will raise confident, courageous, and compassionate children to do the same. I'm very passionate about this work. If you haven't picked up on that yet, but that's exactly why I created the High Performance Husband accelerator, my group coaching program. This is why. And here's the thing. Most men join this this program, this 12-month accelerator, because they want to improve their marriage or become a better father or become or get healthier or become a stronger leader. and and all of that absolutely happens. But underneath it all, what they're really joining is a brotherhood. A room full of men who refuse to let each other drift. Men who ask the hard questions. Men who celebrate your victories, but also notice when you're disappearing. Men who remind you of who you are before you lose yourself. Because what I just walked through is living proof that no amount of success, no amount of influence, no amount of knowledge makes a man immune from drifting. The only question is this. Who will notice before it's too late? So, brother, if this episode lit a fire in your gut, if this episode resonated with you, okay, I want to personally invite you to apply for the High Performance Husband accelerator. Not because you need another course, but because every man needs a circle. Every husband needs accountability. Every father needs a brotherhood. And every leader needs someone who has permission to call him out and to call him up. Because after everything I've went through, I believe this more than I ever have. So listen, here's what you do. Here's your next step. The link to book a call is going to be in the show notes below. I want you to apply for a complimentary strategy call to see if this is the right fit for you. It's not for everyone. It's not for everyone. All right? It's very It's for a chosen few men who are ready to spend 12 months transforming their mind, their marriage, their body, and become the man, the husband, the father their family needs. It's as simple as that. Now, why am I saying all this? Why am I pitching you on this program? Why am I telling you about this community? It's because the longer that I coach men, the more that I'm convinced that no man was ever meant to fight this battle alone. No man was ever meant to live in isolation. So that's what I hope you're learning from this episode today. I hope you're learning from my mistakes. I hope my vulnerability, my honesty, my cander, my openness has been helpful for you. I hope it normalized some things for you. I hope it turned on some lights for you. And if you're listening to this and maybe you're a wife or a mom or a woman or a man who knows a man who who maybe might be going through a season like this, don't be selfish. Share it with them. All right? I say this often. The moment I said this, you probably have someone coming into your mind right now, a name. Just hit the link to share the episode with that person and say, "Hey man, I've been thinking about you. How you doing?" Right? Let's grab a coffee. Let's grab a beer. Let's catch up. would love to would love to chat with you. This this episode hit me. It hit it hit a hit hit home for me and I'd love you to check it out. I think it is going to help you, too. All right, share it with them. So, listen, that's all for me today. I hope and I pray that this episode hits something deep for you. And if it did, reach out and let me know, okay? Leave a comment. I just found out that you can comment on Spotify, which is pretty rad. All right? Comment on YouTube, whatever platform you're listening on. And listen, you don't want to comment, send me an email. Y'all know my email. It's mitchellnationco.com. I love hearing from my listeners. Really, I do. I I read every single email. I do. I spend dedicated time at this. So, let me know if it resonated. Let me know what stuck out to you. And listen, I'm going to see you the next same time, same place next week. And as always, brother, I'm in your corner. Have a great week. Thank you for tuning in to the Dad Nation podcast today. Hey, listen. If today's conversation challenged you, if it encouraged you or helped you level up in any area of your life, would you do me a favor? Take 60 seconds to rate and review the show on whatever platform you're listening on. This helps us reach more men who need to hear this message. And if you haven't already done so, subscribe to the Dad Nation YouTube channel, where you're going to find full episodes, clips, and exclusive content designed to help you win at home, just like you do at work. I remember your family does not need perfection. They need your presence. Your leadership matters. So keep showing up, keep leveling up, and never forget when the dad gets better, the whole family wins. We'll see you next time.
